So this valentine of 2021 let celebrate ourselves, Lets celebrate the fact that we survived the Pandemic. Let’s celebrate the fear, uncertainty, insecurities, doubts and all the negativity and self pity in us, and turn it in SELF LOVE and evolve ourselves and have a progressive year ahead.
Loving Yourself --- WHAT??????
Isn’t it a perfect time to understand what self love is??
The Kind of relation we have with ourselves will set the mood or tone for all the other relations in our life as well. We have to first learn how to pamper and love ourselves before we can give that love to someone else. So who wishes to be loved a bit more, pampered a little extra, flirt with new positive thoughts and energy all the while embracing the new you.
I know I know.. Who doesn’t?
Self love is the love you have for your Jewellery box in your wardrobe,
It is the love you have for that one nose pin that you have which gives you compliments every time you wear its
Self care is not like a basic gold necklace but more like a stylised bridal necklace which if given or taken care of properly can make you feel good every time.
Here is our Guide to Self Love and how it is perfectly ok to spend Valentine’s Day by yourself.
Emphasise on yourself!
Loving yourself and self care is the most difficult and beautiful thing ever and if you are single on this valentine day, well you are in luck!
Because this is the best time to pamper yourself and appreciate and commemorate all your achievements and except and evolve from all the flaws. If you have liked those beaded earrings and don’t know if u can carry it off?? I suggest don’t think much just splurge!!!!
Some people say the moon has some marks on it, some people just stare at in aww of its beauty.
Well the moon is the same the difference is just in a persons perceptions in viewing things.
So view your self pamper yourself and love yourself so that you are in aww of your own self.
Toxic People – GO AWAY!
We are sometimes drawn to toxic people, let’s do ourselves a favours and let that toxic relation GO… Just let it go!
I know its difficult I know your are attached but in a long term you will feel relived and a little sense of achievement as well.
I know I did…
Let this be your first activity on the Path of Self Love this valentine day.
Let’s consciously surround ourselves with positive people and surroundings and let’s meet creative minds.
You have the ability to feel, love lets first love ourselves.
Lets be little Selfish in giving our love away to something or someone, just like we do not like giving our precious things away, be it jewellery or clothes or even electronics.
Always remember until you don’t make yourself happy and love yourself you can never keep others happy or love them truly.
Stop Negative Self-Talk
When we talk to our loved ones, we always encourage them to do better and if not we tell them everything will be ok and there are certain hiccups on the road to success.
Do we positively motivate ourselves when we make mistakes or when life is uncertain?
NO!
We instead self criticise Right? Well we need to stop doing that and practise the same love and positivity for our self that we have for others.
Eat Dance Jump --- Repeat
They say for every Dark Night there will be a brighter day
Lets emphasis on those bright days with putting on our Shiny clothes and chunky gold jewellery and dance around.
Let’s take out our jewellery box and take a trip down memory lane.
Let wear some old clothes and get nostalgic.
Let loose and just shut out all the thoughts and Shame
If none of the above works then there is always ICE-CREAM or CHOCOLATES.
This Valentine lets do what makes us happy without caring what others might think.
Embrace and infatuate over everything that makes you – YOU
Believe me this is tried and tested!
Celebrate yourself, your flaws, your curves, your colour, your marks, your skin, your height, your taste in clothes and jewellery. This is what make yours eyes smile and face shine and this is what make you – YOU. So be proud and be self sufficient
Give yourself a big hug and stand in front of the mirror with all the shiny clothes and jewellery and tell yourself I AM PROUD OF MYSELF AND MY ACHIEVEMENTS.
WRITE WRITE WRITE – Keep a Journal
This valentine day let’s get a pretty journal or a diary and start writing in it.
A journal named self – Love is a great idea.
I suggest fill the journal everyday with positive affirming thoughts about yourself and then you can go back and read these thoughts when you feel low. This will lift your mood immediately. And even if that doesn’t do the trick call your girlfriend slip on a party dress and wear some chunky fashion jewellery and have a girl’s night.
It’s ok to say NO!
We sometimes do somethings just to make the other person happy, even though it is harmful for us in some ways.
WELL YOU DON’T HAVE TO…
It is ok to say no to things which might be harmful to your Physical, Mental or Social wellbeing or might trigger some negative thoughts or emotions.
Worship your Body and Mind
Self Care is very important, we need to keep our mind and body healthy.
Workout at least 4-5 times a week, because exercising reduces Adrenaline & Cortisol which are stress Hormones and stimulates the productions of Endorphins, which are body’s natural mood elevators and painkillers.
So next time you are feeling Low or Cranky just go for a jog.
Run yourself a nice fragrant bubble bath and sit with a glass of wine and some strawberries and just indulge in your inner thoughts and let the negativity drain.
Get yourself a deep tissue massage.
Meditate to keep your mind healthy. I know the feeling when someone tells u to just sit with your eyes shut. But believe me meditating for half hour every day brings a lot of calmness and positivity in you.
Be devoted to Personal Growth
Self – Love & care requires you to be invested in personal, Mental & Physical growth. Invest your free time in reading books about positive thinking, or take up a course which will upgrade your skills. Make a chart about your dreams and aspirations and read and visualize that you have already achieved those dreams daily. This will help keep your mind active and keep driving you towards working hard in achieving your life goals.
After all succeeding in life take a lot of efforts.
Indulge! You are worth it.
This is going to be the most fun of all hence saved for the end.
Just like you spoil your loved ones by giving then fine jewellery and clothes. Why not pamper your self by buying some fancy gold jewellery or nose rings or some fashion jewellery to stylise those old clothes.
OH I know how about big Hoop earrings or a choker necklace and to go with it a nice delicate anklets?
How about you try nice Jhumkis with a bohemian dress? Sounds interesting right?
You could also stylised the boring office white shirt with chunky silver oxidised necklace.
These accessories will surely revamp your look and stylize your personality.
I know you are wondering I have written so much on how to love yourself and it is better said than done, but remember if you have to reach on top and be successful you have to take the first step.
Let’s take the first step together and love ourselves before anyone else this Valentine Day!!
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Hello!!! You have shared the beautiful message with us. While loving others we even forget to think of ourselves. So here you have explained why we have to love first ourselves than the rest. You guys are spreading beautiful messages through this online media is very very appreciable. Thank you!!!!! :)